The Language of Kink

When it comes to language, meaning varies with context. And whether you’re trying to understand others or make yourself understood it’s important to understand that context. Nobody has yet, to my knowledge, written the official bdsm dictionary. But the meanings and connotations of some of the words we use are commonly agreed upon. Understanding this […]

Why is it so hard to find a Mistress?

Good evening Miss, I am feeling weak and aching to serve. humbly, {some random subguy} I get letters like this All. The. Time. This guy probably actually thinks he’s being polite, respectful and “humble”. But what does his message actually translate to? What, actually, is service? SERVICE, genuine service, is something offered without strings to […]

Black Lives Matter: Black Men’s Sex Lives Matter

I normally try very hard to stay out of this kind of internet shitstorm. I’m not here to proselytize to anybody; I’m here to sell some porn. But I foolishly opened my damn mouth on this one and became the object of a social justice witchhunt. Thus I feel the need to make some kind […]

Eye-opening Bullshit

Once upon a time there was this guy in the local scene I had a massive predatory-domme crush on. We’d been chatting online for a while, things were going really well, and I could not wait to get my hands (and my cigarette!) on his body. He seemed like a sadistic bitch’s dream come true. […]