Where the porn gets made

I’ve been absent online for the past week or so because I’ve been super busy working on something big. Really big. Seriously, I cannot emphasize enough how big this is for me. I’ve been hard at work building myself a new femdom porn studio! My struggle & an executive decision For the past few years […]

Another View of Hard Limits

You’re probably familiar with the idea of hard limits as those lines you’re not willing to cross, activities you absolutely don’t want to do in a bdsm power exchange. But have you ever thought about hard limits including things you must have in your Mistress/slave relationship? Hard limits as must-haves Let’s face it, you wouldn’t […]

Online vs Offline Femdom

So far in most of my posts about bdsm slave training I’ve been talking about my slave training programs for in-the-flesh servants. But there are definite – and very important – distinctions to be made when we’re engaged in a D/s power exchange relationship online, via phone, etc. I wouldn’t say that an online Mistress/slave […]

Slave Opening: Errand Boy

This position is exactly what it sounds like: you will run errands for me. Errands will include things like taking my shoes or jewelry to be repaired, dropping off/picking up dry cleaning, running to the post office, and other small tasks. Many of these tasks will require you to pay for minor (under $50) expenses. […]

BDSM Protocols 101

Protocols are part of the structure so necessary in a d/s relationship. They help each of us feel in our proper place. D/s protocols are also part of the fun! But what exactly is a protocol? Put simply, a protocol is a behavioral ritual, consciously designed & chosen to express or reinforce our respective roles […]

Useful Male Slavery

A couple weeks ago I talked about setting up a slave training program in a consensual D/s relationship. It’s important to me that anyone I’m spending MY time and energy on should be contributing at least as much to my life as I’m contributing to theirs. Preferably more, this is a Mistress-slave relationship we’re talking […]

Setting Up a Slave Training Program

As a Mistress and slave owner I always have goals for my servants. These goals will change over time. They are also tailored to the individual slave.  But I have a pretty methodical way of selecting my goals, prioritizing them, and breaking them down into manageable steps to create a slave training program. I believe […]

12 steps to the perfect pedicure

Giving a decent pedicure is a very useful skill for a slave to have. I know I love it when a footslave can do a good job tending to my fine bbw feet! And learning how to give one is a great thing you can do to train yourself to be a better slave. You […]

Self-training for BDSM Slaves

Odds are you’re fantasized about what it would be like to be ‘owned’. Maybe you even hope to make that fantasy a reality one day. But what is there about you which might make a truly superior woman want to own you? What kinds of talents, skills & resources do you have that would make you […]

Discipline in a Femdom lifestyle

What is discipline? Is it the same thing as punishment? Is it the same thing as structure? And how do I, as a responsible dominant, create an effective system of discipline? Discipline and Leadership Much has been said about the importance of discipline. But what is discipline exactly? Is it the same thing as structure, […]