BDSM Protocols 101

Protocols are part of the structure so necessary in a d/s relationship. They help each of us feel in our proper place. D/s protocols are also part of the fun! But what exactly is a protocol? Put simply, a protocol is a behavioral ritual, consciously designed & chosen to express or reinforce our respective roles […]

Discipline in a Femdom lifestyle

What is discipline? Is it the same thing as punishment? Is it the same thing as structure? And how do I, as a responsible dominant, create an effective system of discipline? Discipline and Leadership Much has been said about the importance of discipline. But what is discipline exactly? Is it the same thing as structure, […]

Basics of BDSM Slave Contracts

What is a slave contract? Simply put, a bdsm slave contract is a negotiated agreement detailing the boundaries and expectations of each party. Whenever you embark on a Mistress/slave relationship with me you’ll have an agreement like this. And because I like to keep things clear and consistent this agreement will probably exist in some written form […]