Silk fetish scarf care & storage

Compared to latex, leather, or even rope silk scarves are very easy care fetish gear. They do need to be washed often; when used in bdsm play silk fetish scarves tend to be worn in places (and used in ways) that get them quite dirty. And for goodness sake if you have pretty silk scarves […]

BDSM Protocols 101

Protocols are part of the structure so necessary in a d/s relationship. They help each of us feel in our proper place. D/s protocols are also part of the fun! But what exactly is a protocol? Put simply, a protocol is a behavioral ritual, consciously designed & chosen to express or reinforce our respective roles […]

Beyond Silk: Satin & Stockings & Furs, Oh My

When it comes to fetish fashion my main love is silk. But I’m really a textileophile, which simply means that I get enormous sensual pleasure from all kinds of fabrics. This fetish for fabrics, and especially luxury fabrics, plays into my style as a femme dom (the silk domme!) a lot. Fetish Fabrics, Fetish Fashion […]

Decorating My BBW Feet

Just like I’d wear makeup to enhance my face or lingerie to show off my ass I’ll do special things to put my lovely bbw feet on display. It makes me feel spoiled & pampered to have prettily decorated feet.  Plus it draws the eye of any foot fetishist I might meet, which is an […]

Sample Cock Control Contract

You see a lot written in forums and elsewhere about the “submissive journey”, and I’ve spoken here before about the fact that people’s boundaries do shift over time. Less attention is given to the fact that we dommes also grow and change and yes, even like to push our own boundaries. I’ve grown in a […]

Putting him in his place with silky panties

Silk scarf & sari bondage is wonderful, but there’s more to silk fetish than tying people up in silk. Another very common item for silk lovers to fixate on is silk panties. As a silk domme I have a deep appreciation for the allure of pretty, silky panties. The erotic power of silky panties Panties […]

Silk Scarf Fetish Play

Silk scarves are great for fetish play What makes silk scarves so superb to use for bdsm & fetish play? For one thing, they add such an incredible element of sensuality to a scene. The very word sensuality suggests using the senses and adding a silk scarf enhances every sensory aspect of kinky play. Being […]

What is a silk domme?

What do you think of when you hear the word “dominatrix”? Chances are you probably have an image of a woman in skin-tight, shiny black leather or latex, with dangerously high heels and holding a whip. But what about the Queen, the Headmistress, the Mother Superior, the pagan Goddess or even the powerful corporate CEO? […]

Silk & Satin Sensations

Remember a few weeks ago when I appeared on the ‘In Bed with Dr. Sue’ show to talk about my fetish for silk, fur & other luxury fabrics? Well if you wanted to listen again or (heaven forbid!) missed it the first time around you can find it here:   Are YOU a fan of […]

Every submale’s one secret need

I want to talk today about the one thing every submissive craves, aches for, genuinely, truly, NEEDS…and that I completely understand because I share the fundamental experience that lies at the core of it. No matter what the specifics of his fetish are, every subguy I have ever met longs to be understood. To be […]