Sample Cock Control Contract

You see a lot written in forums and elsewhere about the “submissive journey”, and I’ve spoken here before about the fact that people’s boundaries do shift over time. Less attention is given to the fact that we dommes also grow and change and yes, even like to push our own boundaries. I’ve grown in a […]

Defining Your Boundaries

When you embark on a program of slave training with me I’ll ask you what your hard limits are. You’re probably familiar with the concept; your “hard limits” are those activities and areas of kink that you just don’t want to explore. Having hard limits is perfectly ok. Even dominants have hard limits. And while […]

Sext with Me @ SextPanther

Today I’m delighted to announce that I’ve joined the SextPanther network! SextPanther is way cool; it allows you to text my phone directly, and me to answer you back, while maintaining total privacy & discretion – neither of our real phone numbers are shown. It makes it super easy for you to text with me […]

Hard Limits & SSC in Financial Domination

A lot of guys write to me asking if I’d be willing to completely ruin them financially. Now I realize that probably 99.99% of males who make that inquiry are seeking a wank-fodder response, and I don’t waste my time answering those letters. If you want me to discuss your fetish fantasies then you should approach me with an […]

Spoiled means what *I* say it does.

I have one serious issue when it comes to being a “findomme”. You see, most submissive males who have the financial fetish actually kink on what I would refer to as “class markers”. What I mean by this is that what he’s REALLY turned on by is what he perceives as the posh snobby bitch who wouldn’t give him the time of […]

Thoughts on a controversial subject

  sub to Mistress X: “it holds no interest to myself but I can’t figure out if findom is the worst kind of femdom or (and?) its purest form. Mistress X’s response: The moment a Domme becomes financially dependent on subs to pay her bills she is no longer in control. #Findom vs #REALDomme #FemDom […]

Eye-opening Bullshit

Once upon a time there was this guy in the local scene I had a massive predatory-domme crush on. We’d been chatting online for a while, things were going really well, and I could not wait to get my hands (and my cigarette!) on his body. He seemed like a sadistic bitch’s dream come true. […]