Another View of Hard Limits

You’re probably familiar with the idea of hard limits as those lines you’re not willing to cross, activities you absolutely don’t want to do in a bdsm power exchange. But have you ever thought about hard limits including things you must have in your Mistress/slave relationship? Hard limits as must-haves Let’s face it, you wouldn’t […]

Online vs Offline Femdom

So far in most of my posts about bdsm slave training I’ve been talking about my slave training programs for in-the-flesh servants. But there are definite – and very important – distinctions to be made when we’re engaged in a D/s power exchange relationship online, via phone, etc. I wouldn’t say that an online Mistress/slave […]

Slave Opening: Errand Boy

This position is exactly what it sounds like: you will run errands for me. Errands will include things like taking my shoes or jewelry to be repaired, dropping off/picking up dry cleaning, running to the post office, and other small tasks. Many of these tasks will require you to pay for minor (under $50) expenses. […]

BDSM Protocols 101

Protocols are part of the structure so necessary in a d/s relationship. They help each of us feel in our proper place. D/s protocols are also part of the fun! But what exactly is a protocol? Put simply, a protocol is a behavioral ritual, consciously designed & chosen to express or reinforce our respective roles […]

Useful Male Slavery

A couple weeks ago I talked about setting up a slave training program in a consensual D/s relationship. It’s important to me that anyone I’m spending MY time and energy on should be contributing at least as much to my life as I’m contributing to theirs. Preferably more, this is a Mistress-slave relationship we’re talking […]

Setting Up a Slave Training Program

As a Mistress and slave owner I always have goals for my servants. These goals will change over time. They are also tailored to the individual slave.  But I have a pretty methodical way of selecting my goals, prioritizing them, and breaking them down into manageable steps to create a slave training program. I believe […]

Self-training for BDSM Slaves

Odds are you’re fantasized about what it would be like to be ‘owned’. Maybe you even hope to make that fantasy a reality one day. But what is there about you which might make a truly superior woman want to own you? What kinds of talents, skills & resources do you have that would make you […]

Discipline in a Femdom lifestyle

What is discipline? Is it the same thing as punishment? Is it the same thing as structure? And how do I, as a responsible dominant, create an effective system of discipline? Discipline and Leadership Much has been said about the importance of discipline. But what is discipline exactly? Is it the same thing as structure, […]

Sample Cock Control Contract

You see a lot written in forums and elsewhere about the “submissive journey”, and I’ve spoken here before about the fact that people’s boundaries do shift over time. Less attention is given to the fact that we dommes also grow and change and yes, even like to push our own boundaries. I’ve grown in a […]

Your first slave training session with Me

Let the slave training begin Just like every slave is different, so each bdsm slave training session is different. But here’s an idea of what you might expect in a typical first session with me. When you arrive I will greet you warmly. I’ll check in to make sure you don’t need to pee or […]