Basics of BDSM Slave Contracts

What is a slave contract? Simply put, a bdsm slave contract is a negotiated agreement detailing the boundaries and expectations of each party. Whenever you embark on a Mistress/slave relationship with me you’ll have an agreement like this. And because I like to keep things clear and consistent this agreement will probably exist in some written form […]

Be My Promo Bitch

I’m always getting messages from men who ask to be my promotional or retweet slave. My answer to this is: PROMOTE ME then! You don’t need my permission (or my attention) to retweet,  reblog, like & share everything I post on my social  media accounts. However I guarantee that if you DO start boosting my […]

Understanding Your Submissive Self

Your first job as a sub is to UNDERSTAND YOURSELF. This is perhaps the #1 mistake submissives make when entering the world of kink. If you don’t understand yourself, your own needs & desires and what you bring to the table, then you will inevitably be disappointed. Not only that but you will inevitably disappoint […]

Sext with Me @ SextPanther

Today I’m delighted to announce that I’ve joined the SextPanther network! SextPanther is way cool; it allows you to text my phone directly, and me to answer you back, while maintaining total privacy & discretion – neither of our real phone numbers are shown. It makes it super easy for you to text with me […]

Thoughts for the Day – Verbal Humiliation

I always want to  write more here; I have so many things to say. But honestly writing is really difficult for me. I’m keenly aware of how slippery words are & how easy it is for one’s meaning to be misconstrued thanks to constantly shifting tribal signaling filters. So I spend waaay to much time […]

Sad News & New Leaves in 2017

I don’t write here nearly as often as I want to. Mostly, I think, because I feel like every piece of writing I put out there has to be extra super double plus plus well thought out,  perfectly composed to withstand the fiercest criticisms of the internet thought police. This is, of course, an impossible […]

Why is it so hard to find a Mistress?

Good evening Miss, I am feeling weak and aching to serve. humbly, {some random subguy} I get letters like this All. The. Time. This guy probably actually thinks he’s being polite, respectful and “humble”. But what does his message actually translate to? What, actually, is service? SERVICE, genuine service, is something offered without strings to […]

Black Lives Matter: Black Men’s Sex Lives Matter

I normally try very hard to stay out of this kind of internet shitstorm. I’m not here to proselytize to anybody; I’m here to sell some porn. But I foolishly opened my damn mouth on this one and became the object of a social justice witchhunt. Thus I feel the need to make some kind […]

Hard Limits & SSC in Financial Domination

A lot of guys write to me asking if I’d be willing to completely ruin them financially. Now I realize that probably 99.99% of males who make that inquiry are seeking a wank-fodder response, and I don’t waste my time answering those letters. If you want me to discuss your fetish fantasies then you should approach me with an […]