Self-training for BDSM Slaves

Odds are you’re fantasized about what it would be like to be ‘owned’. Maybe you even hope to make that fantasy a reality one day. But what is there about you which might make a truly superior woman want to own you? What kinds of talents, skills & resources do you have that would make you […]

The meaning & importance of discipline in D/s

What is discipline? Is it the same thing as punishment? Is it the same thing as structure? And how do I, as a responsible dominant, create an effective system of discipline? Discipline and Leadership Much has been said about the importance of discipline. But what is discipline exactly? Is it the same thing as structure, […]

Sample Cock Control Contract

You see a lot written in forums and elsewhere about the “submissive journey”, and I’ve spoken here before about the fact that people’s boundaries do shift over time. Less attention is given to the fact that we dommes also grow and change and yes, even like to push our own boundaries. I’ve grown in a […]

Defining Your Boundaries

When you embark on a program of slave training with me I’ll ask you what your hard limits are. You’re probably familiar with the concept; your “hard limits” are those activities and areas of kink that you just don’t want to explore. Having hard limits is perfectly ok. Even dominants have hard limits. And while […]

Silk Scarf Fetish Play

Silk scarves are great for fetish play What makes silk scarves so superb to use for bdsm & fetish play? For one thing, they add such an incredible element of sensuality to a scene. The very word sensuality suggests using the senses and adding a silk scarf enhances every sensory aspect of kinky play. Being […]

Your first slave training session with Me

Let the slave training begin Just like every slave is different, so each bdsm slave training session is different. But here’s an idea of what you might expect in a typical first session with me. When you arrive I will greet you warmly. I’ll check in to make sure you don’t need to pee or […]

What is a silk domme?

What do you think of when you hear the word “dominatrix”? Chances are you probably have an image of a woman in skin-tight, shiny black leather or latex, with dangerously high heels and holding a whip. But what about the Queen, the Headmistress, the Mother Superior, the pagan Goddess or even the powerful corporate CEO? […]

Basics of BDSM Slave Contracts

What is a slave contract? Simply put, a bdsm slave contract is a negotiated agreement detailing the boundaries and expectations of each party. Whenever you embark on a Mistress/slave relationship with me you’ll have an agreement like this. And because I like to keep things clear and consistent this agreement will probably exist in some written form […]

Sad News & New Leaves in 2017

I don’t write here nearly as often as I want to. Mostly, I think, because I feel like every piece of writing I put out there has to be extra super double plus plus well thought out,  perfectly composed to withstand the fiercest criticisms of the internet thought police. This is, of course, an impossible […]

Thoughts on a controversial subject

  sub to Mistress X: “it holds no interest to myself but I can’t figure out if findom is the worst kind of femdom or (and?) its purest form. Mistress X’s response: The moment a Domme becomes financially dependent on subs to pay her bills she is no longer in control. #Findom vs #REALDomme #FemDom […]