When you come to me seeking a position as my submissive keep one thing in mind: I don’t give a fuck about your prowess in bed. Why? For one thing, as a Mistress & slave owner I’m not in this just for the orgasms. And for another thing, I already know you’d suck at providing them.
I’m not in this for the orgasms
Orgasms are great. I love orgasms. I like to have lots and lots of orgasms. And I’m very happy to use my submissive male slaves in any number of ways to help me have lots of fantastic orgasms. However no orgasm can compare with the thrill of a POWER RUSH. I love the feeling of getting my way, of being in command, or exerting my will even when it makes you uncomfortable, humiliated, embarrassed etc. and that’s the thrill I’m after.
For me, an integral part of this power rush is getting paid for it. You most likely do genuine, real-world work to get that money. And I can use it to improve my life in genuine, real-world ways that last so much longer than the glow of any orgasm. For me, that makes both of our roles in the power exchange much more potent. I love the kinky sexual things we do together but without tributes & gifts it feels to me like you want me to be a ‘bdsm booty call’. And I am absolutely not anyone’s booty call!
Is it possible for me to be satisfied with service that doesn’t involve money? Sure. But you’ll have to put forth a lot of effort in doing genuinely useful work for me. Quite possibly more effort than you put in at your vanilla day job. And in my experience when submissive men talk about “serving” they usually have, for instance, eating my pussy in mind. Now do I look to you like the kind of woman who faces any shortage of offers for pussy eating? Of course not. That’s not service to ME; that’s service to your own dick. And once again not at all what I’m about as a dominant woman.
Besides, I know you’d suck at giving them
This isn’t a specific criticism of you personally. (Unless it applies!) But like most women, turning me on involves more than just flipping a switch. My body is a complicated, high-maintenance piece of machinery that must be handled with an expert touch – and no man will have that expertise on his first visit to my boudoir! Any man (or woman for that matter) would take training to be an exceptional lover to me. This is true no matter how much any of your past paramours may have raved about you. Indeed, in my experience some of the absolute worst lovers are the ones who think they’re experts. They have the hardest time opening their ears and minds to what I tell them about how to please me!
Even if you’re not naturally clumsy & stupid in the sack (and a woeful number of men are) you still need training to make my motor purr. So I am completely uninterested in – and unimpressed by – your claims of sexual prowess.
Yeah this goes for dick pics too – if I want to see your junk I’ll ask for it!
If you ever want to kneel to me, have kinky play time with me, or indeed get my attention at all you must first prove yourself useful. You need to demonstrate that you’ll bring more to my life than the transient thrill of a few orgasms. I won’t settle for anything less.