Sample Cock Control Contract

You see a lot written in forums and elsewhere about the “submissive journey”, and I’ve spoken here before about the fact that people’s boundaries do shift over time. Less attention is given to the fact that we dommes also grow and change and yes, even like to push our own boundaries. I’ve grown in a […]

Defining Your Boundaries

When you embark on a program of slave training with me I’ll ask you what your hard limits are. You’re probably familiar with the concept; your “hard limits” are those activities and areas of kink that you just don’t want to explore. Having hard limits is perfectly ok. Even dominants have hard limits. And while […]

Your first slave training session with Me

Let the slave training begin Just like every slave is different, so each bdsm slave training session is different. But here’s an idea of what you might expect in a typical first session with me. When you arrive I will greet you warmly. I’ll check in to make sure you don’t need to pee or […]

Basics of BDSM Slave Contracts

What is a slave contract? Simply put, a bdsm slave contract is a negotiated agreement detailing the boundaries and expectations of each party. Whenever you embark on a Mistress/slave relationship with me you’ll have an agreement like this. And because I like to keep things clear and consistent this agreement will probably exist in some written form […]

Be My Promo Bitch

I’m always getting messages from men who ask to be my promotional or retweet slave. My answer to this is: PROMOTE ME then! You don’t need my permission (or my attention) to retweet,  reblog, like & share everything I post on my social  media accounts. However I guarantee that if you DO start boosting my […]

Understanding Your Submissive Self

Your first job as a sub is to UNDERSTAND YOURSELF. This is perhaps the #1 mistake submissives make when entering the world of kink. If you don’t understand yourself, your own needs & desires and what you bring to the table, then you will inevitably be disappointed. Not only that but you will inevitably disappoint […]

Thoughts for the Day – Verbal Humiliation

I always want to  write more here; I have so many things to say. But honestly writing is really difficult for me. I’m keenly aware of how slippery words are & how easy it is for one’s meaning to be misconstrued thanks to constantly shifting tribal signaling filters. So I spend waaay to much time […]

Packages Packages Packages

I’m clearing out my cellphone gallery & trying to keep my new year’s resolution, so here’s a random collection of pics of packages I’ve received. I don’t always forget to take pics but I rarely have time to post them. I’m too fussy about doing things like adding a logo/watermark. (Bear in mind my disability […]

Why is it so hard to find a Mistress?

Good evening Miss, I am feeling weak and aching to serve. humbly, {some random subguy} I get letters like this All. The. Time. This guy probably actually thinks he’s being polite, respectful and “humble”. But what does his message actually translate to? What, actually, is service? SERVICE, genuine service, is something offered without strings to […]

Hard Limits & SSC in Financial Domination

A lot of guys write to me asking if I’d be willing to completely ruin them financially. Now I realize that probably 99.99% of males who make that inquiry are seeking a wank-fodder response, and I don’t waste my time answering those letters. If you want me to discuss your fetish fantasies then you should approach me with an […]