Self-training for BDSM Slaves

Odds are you’re fantasized about what it would be like to be ‘owned’. Maybe you even hope to make that fantasy a reality one day. But what is there about you which might make a truly superior woman want to own you? What kinds of talents, skills & resources do you have that would make you […]

The meaning & importance of discipline in D/s

What is discipline? Is it the same thing as punishment? Is it the same thing as structure? And how do I, as a responsible dominant, create an effective system of discipline? Discipline and Leadership Much has been said about the importance of discipline. But what is discipline exactly? Is it the same thing as structure, […]

Sample Cock Control Contract

You see a lot written in forums and elsewhere about the “submissive journey”, and I’ve spoken here before about the fact that people’s boundaries do shift over time. Less attention is given to the fact that we dommes also grow and change and yes, even like to push our own boundaries. I’ve grown in a […]

Defining Your Boundaries

When you embark on a program of slave training with me I’ll ask you what your hard limits are. You’re probably familiar with the concept; your “hard limits” are those activities and areas of kink that you just don’t want to explore. Having hard limits is perfectly ok. Even dominants have hard limits. And while […]

What is a silk domme?

What do you think of when you hear the word “dominatrix”? Chances are you probably have an image of a woman in skin-tight, shiny black leather or latex, with dangerously high heels and holding a whip. But what about the Queen, the Headmistress, the Mother Superior, the pagan Goddess or even the powerful corporate CEO? […]

The Beauty of BBW Feet

I’ve spent a fair amount of time contemplating the question  of what makes BBW feet so awesome. Perfectly natural since I’m a plus-size Goddess who’s into foot fetishes, Right? Today I’d like to share my thoughts with you about what makes bbw feet (especially mine, lol!) wonderful. BBW feet are extra pretty My foot fetish interest […]

Basics of BDSM Slave Contracts

What is a slave contract? Simply put, a bdsm slave contract is a negotiated agreement detailing the boundaries and expectations of each party. Whenever you embark on a Mistress/slave relationship with me you’ll have an agreement like this. And because I like to keep things clear and consistent this agreement will probably exist in some written form […]

Silk & Satin Sensations

Remember a few weeks ago when I appeared on the ‘In Bed with Dr. Sue’ show to talk about my fetish for silk, fur & other luxury fabrics? Well if you wanted to listen again or (heaven forbid!) missed it the first time around you can find it here:   Are YOU a fan of […]

Be My Promo Bitch

I’m always getting messages from men who ask to be my promotional or retweet slave. My answer to this is: PROMOTE ME then! You don’t need my permission (or my attention) to retweet,  reblog, like & share everything I post on my social  media accounts. However I guarantee that if you DO start boosting my […]

Sensation Play with Silk & Satin

You’re probably familiar with the archetypal image of the leather Domme. I do love dressing up in leather sometimes, and I’m definitely a sadist, but I call myself instead a SILK DOMME. What is a silk domme? It’s a Lady whose aesthetic is more attuned to the sumptuous luxury of the upper crust than the […]