Evil Opal in New York City

A very sweet submissive fan of mine has given me the most fabulous birthday gift this year – he’s sponsoring a trip to New York City! I love, love, LOVE being a jet-setting Mistress.

I’ll be staying in a delightfully luxurious hotel in Manhattan and sampling as many of the pleasures of the Big Apple (both kinky and vanilla) as I can in the short time I’ll be there. I always want to do museums and gardens anywhere I go, and in New York of course I’m looking forward to the Met, Central Park, the Staten Island ferry and other iconic tourist spots. I’ve got tentative plans for a few play parties and a visit to Paddles NYC. And I’ve got pretty firm plans to do something I’ve wanted to do for a long time: shoot some extreme trampling fetish porn! You know, the kind where a big 240 pound  woman such as myself jumps onto a poor submissive doormat from above and completely knocks the wind out of him? I’m pretty excited about that.  *evilgrin*

I will be available for sightseeing dates, shopping trips, cashpoint meets and private Femdom play sessions from May 21st-May 23rd. However my time is already half filled so if you want to schedule a date you’d better submit your application right away.

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Mistress Opal’s Evil Easter Egg Hunt

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Easter is my personal favorite holiday. Possibly because my April 11th birthday falls on Easter once every decade or so. Regardless of where my passion came from, it’s undeniable that now I love Easter better than Christmas, Halloween, or any of the other more celebrated holidays.

One of my very favorite Easter traditions is egg hunting. So I decided to celebrate my favorite holiday this year with a digital Easter egg hunt of my own. All the eggs you see here can be found hidden throughout my website. Find an egg and click on it and you’ll get a special Opalicious surprise!

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The Language of Kink

When it comes to language, meaning varies with context. And whether you’re trying to understand others or make yourself understood it’s important to understand that context. Nobody has yet, to my knowledge, written the official bdsm dictionary. But the meanings and connotations of some of the words we use are commonly agreed upon. Understanding this kinky language is very helpful when you’re trying to figure out where you fit in, and even more so when you’re trying to find a partner to play with. Knowing what you really want is vital but being able to express it is equally important!

 

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Kink vs BDSM

Both of these may be described as “the scene” and they’re often used interchangeably. But the kink scene is really a much bigger umbrella that bdsm clusters under along with playfellows like furries and wetlook enthusiasts. “Kink” covers ALL our oddball erotic triggers; bdsm is just the whips-and-chains stuff.

Except it’s not. Not always anyway. BDSM as an acronym includes several distinct concepts. As an example of kinky language it’s an elegant packaging of multiple meanings:

Bondage & Domination – this area of the kink universe involves, you guessed it, folks who like being tied up, chained, gagged, trapped in boxes, cages & vacuum suction beds – you get the idea. And of course the dominants who love to put their submissives in those predicaments. It’s an explicit power-play dynamic that relies largely on the stereotypical ‘dungeon’ aesthetic. But it doesn’t have to include things which cause actual pain. The chains but not necessarily the whips in other words. BDSM Education Femdom Life My Philosophy  verbal humiliation stupidity real racial humiliation paradox lifestyle kinky language humiliation femdom ethics Domme style D/s bdsm

Sado-Masochism – s&m, on the other hand, covers the ‘whips’ part of ‘whips & chains’. S&M activities can be part of a power-exchange relationship. But they don’t have to be. Which is why the pain-giver and the pain-receiver in this context are often referred to as ‘Tops’ and ‘bottoms’ rather than ‘Doms’ and ‘subs’. And there are LOTS of bottoms and Tops who aren’t into power exchange but just love getting/giving a beating.

Domination & Submission – and finally we have D/s, which is explicitly centered on the power exchange without necessarily having many – or any – of the stereotypical bdsm whips and chains elements. This is where you’ll find, for instance, a sissy sub who loves being enslaved & controlled but has little interest in being tied up or beaten.

 

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The Players

In recent years there’s been a growing recognition of people’s differing interests in the bdsm scene. In kinky language terms this has led to the use of ‘D-type’ and ‘s-type’ as catch-all labels for the folks who do the tying up, spanking, etc vs. those who get tied up, spanked etc. Which is a good thing as there’s also been an explosion in the variety of micro-niche labels. With the advent of the internet people are converging into groups and putting names to their shared interests such as findom, pet play, primal, etc. I’m not even going to try to list all of these, but I do want to mention a few of the old-school labels and their connotations.

For D-type women the classic role labels include Dominant (Domme), Mistress, Queen, and Goddess. Typical titles for the guys include Master, Lord & Daddy. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a dominant who identified as a man call himself “Queen” or “Goddess” but it’s not uncommon to find women who prefer “Daddy” or “Master”. Again, these titles can be a strong indicator of the dominant’s personal style. Both are superior authority figures, but a Daddy is quite different from a Goddess!

For the s-types classic labels include slave, submissive, bottom, and fetishist. In the common usage a bottom is someone who enjoys being on the receiving end of sado-masochistic play without necessarily wanting to surrender control at all. A fetishist is excited by shoes, or rubber, or whatever, but has little desire to actually submit. A “submissive” (aka sub, subbie, subguy) on the other hand wishes to surrender control to another, albeit temporarily and with limitations. And a “slave” is an s-type who wishes to surrender control 24/7/365, with no limits on what their dominant can command them to do.

These are often thought of as being a hierarchy, e.g. a fetishist or submissive is somehow less genuine than a “true” slave. I (and many others) think the notion of such a hierarchy is bullshit. Wanting to give up control does not make one person any better than another who just wants to be spanked. What DOES matter is understanding, accepting, and communicating your true desires to your partner.

 

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The Play

When using words as sex toys in bdsm it’s crucial to understand that the language is not to be taken literally. So for instance, if I call a guy “slave” during a play scene it does not obligate either of us to a life of 24/7 power exchange. Using that word is just a turn on, and that’s ok!

Very often bdsm language play involves using words that have strongly negative values out in the everyday world. Words like rape, abuse and torture are huge erotic triggers for loads of people in the right context. And there’s the key – context is everything. Being called a worthless piece of shit by someone with whom you have a bond of trust, when you know it’s part of an erotic game between you, is very different from having such words used in a vanilla context.
This seems like such an obvious point, but there are a great many people who appear unable to make this distinction. Which very often leads to censorship and misunderstanding. No rational person wants actual rape, torture & abuse to be considered acceptable. But under certain circumstances quite a lot of people enjoy talking as if they do.

I think a lot of the sexual power of kinky language comes from the appeal of the forbidden. We kinksters like to FEEL that we’re transgressing social boundaries, even as we take special care to ensure safety & consent. Like so many things in bdsm, there’s pleasure in paradox. Understanding the paradoxical pleasure of kinky language is an important step to being able to express your own needs and desires.

Come talk kinky with me!

 

The Fabric of My Sexuality

Note from Goddess Opal – this is my first ever guest post on this blog, and I’m very happy to welcome my fellow silk fetishist Andy Warren (@SilkenAssassin on Twitter) to describe his evolution into a textile-o-phile with a preference for silk! And kleenex tissues, but that’s a story for another time…   ;D

A silk dom’s journey

I’d like to point out to all of you that at the time of writing this, I’m a heterosexual dominant man. Yet I had to get here, to this place, to this…. ‘ME’ somehow. The ‘how’ is a long, exciting, and very sensual story, filled with trial and error and some bizarre behaviours for a ‘Top’. However I began this journey very much from a rather submissively innocent eye.

Like it or not, our infantile and juvenile years are the moments when we absorb everything. Regardless of our external behaviour we as children absorbed everything. We saw things that our eyes were entranced by, be that colour, movement or expressive maternal stimuli. We touched things that we didn’t like that evoked memories that we take with us today: like nails on a chalkboard or squeezing tin foil. We felt things that gave us feedback back to our skin, our flesh that sent waves of pleasure through us without connecting it not to sexual activity but those of comfort, gentleness. We were growing and learning, feeling, touching, experiencing, as all children will whether we like it or now. And as adults, when we learn that mutual pleasure between us and our partners makes the world go round,  we also realise that we ourselves are the masters of our pleasure. Then we tend to rely on what we learned as children.

From the mundane to the sublime

When we become sexually active we leave behind the innocence of childhood. Yet some of what we take with us into our sex lives are made up of things that our peers have brought to our eyes, ears, and flesh. We never enjoyed having our hair pulled as kids yet we do now, because our relationship with pain and touch changed as we grew and firmed up. The punishment of being spanked when we’ve been bad brought with it the guilt of having done something wrong and the admittance of that was often painful enough. We cried tears of woe and soreness. Now we cry for very different reasons.

Fetish grows from past traumas again faced as children. What was once a feeling of guilt, sorrow or hardship, even abuse, can, in adult years define how we live and enjoy sex. Or on the flipside it can be utilised at our own control instead of it controlling us. But fetish is always what it is: the contextualization of something that can be so normal or commonplace that provides pleasure to us when in others it remains something so mundane. There are strange fetishes, there are very gross and outlandish fetishes. But the very first and now most important to me, was that of silk.

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Introduction to silk sensuality

My exposure to silk began when I was 5 years old, some 30 years ago. Back then I used to crawl into the marital bedroom, delve into Mum’s drawers, and dig around for her 80’s style white silk satin petticoats.

Silk is undeniably the most precious feeling and lavish of fabrics; its sheen and delicate nature calls to all of us. It denotes class, taste, decadence, and the desire to look at our best. If we can dress in silk, we’re asking, subliminally to others, to touch us, feel what I feel. The sensation of silk upon human skin is just something that tops the sensual hierarchy. Its smell is very clean too, fresh and you can almost smell the smoothness. But then saying that, there are men and women who would rate the feel of rubber, PVC or leather at the pinnacle of material and the responses they get from its contact with their skin is out of this world. And to those I say “You Rock!!”

So…. I digress. These satin slips, I used to put them on, across my infantile legs, my arms, my face and buttocks, and just lay on the carpet and relishing on the fabric. I was very young and I’d never experienced such a phenomenal material. It clearly had an impact on me. It was heavenly to feel, the smell was beyond compare, so clean and unique. I derived a great amount of comfort and security from it. And it seemed to naturally raise me to a level of… beyond enjoyment. Again, I was 5 years old so it was nothing sexual, because at 5 years old age we have no comprehension of that. And thank God we don’t.

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But I wasn’t just enjoying it. I felt like this stuff was just different to everything else I was touching. Eventually I got caught and I stopped doing it. Now you may be thinking to yourself right now “He’s a latent crossdresser!!!” But no. I am very comfortable in my identity as a man, my sexuality as heterosexual and my sexual identity, which is why I am writing this now. There’s no harm in how or why I felt what I felt or did what I did. I don’t wear women’s clothes now nor do I ever wish to..besides this one time (at bandcamp) an ex girlfriend of mine wagered me to wear her underwear to work one day. And I did. I didn’t derive any pleasure from it besides being man enough to go through with it and see the look on her face after I sent her photos (Yeah I’m all kinds of wrong, me).

Maturing needs & desires

After being caught touching her silky clothes I think my Mum thought that it was due to me not getting enough comfort from her as a Mother. I was also never breastfed as a baby, something I’m wonderfully glad for. Now I see breastfeeding as both the nurturing and essential part of a child’s growth and bond with their mother but also as a sexual, sensual, erotic and emotional process, and doubly glad I don’t and cannot view this as something my Mum did for me. Other Mothers however, should breastfeed their children if they choose to. There is nothing at all remotely wrong or disgusting about it, be that in public or privately. Maybe my Mum didn’t give me the comfort and security I feel a baby needs but I’ve never held it against her, to be honest, I’m thankful. The reasons I was deprived of this I need not know and I’m glad I don’t, but it didn’t stop me from seeking out the comfort and nurturing elements of life for myself.

As a side-note to it’s importance: the eroticism I find in breastfeeding now, while I’ve not been exposed to it actively, I feel from the viewpoint of someone who needs comfort and intimacy. Being held by an older woman to her breast, slowly stimulating her as well as myself, is a constant fantasy of mine. I do have a lactation fetish completely aside from my fetish for silk but it’s all linked to my childhood and my relationship with what I was exposed to during these years.

I think it’s why I adore older women so much. Is that wrong? No, but it is a fantasy I have that’s come from something deprived from me as a child. Memories or lack thereof give way to fantasies and fetishes and only makes us ‘different’ from each other. We all have these little quirks and errors with our lives, our childhood or teenage years, that may one day lead to a major part of our sexuality.

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Anyway, I digress. 2 years later, when I was 7, I had to perform in a school dance. I really cannot recall what the play or theme was. But there was a dance that a number of girls and boys had to do in front of parents and I was in this group. (Don’t worry, I dance a lot better now.) We were tasked with having our mothers buy a white silk scarf for us to wave around for the purpose of the dance. I still cannot recall why though. Now my Mum bought the silk scarf and on the day of the dance I had a stomach bug and couldn’t go in to school. So there I was, relieved, saved rescued by illness from an effeminate performance of silken prancing.

A silk collector is born

Yet there I was, with this white silk scarf that was useless now…. or was it? Hee hee. I would take it from MY drawer this time and hold it over my face, nose and mouth. The feel and smell, was intense and I knew I shouldn’t be doing it. I felt guilty and naughty…. yet good, really really good. I would do this most nights of the week.

I just really wish I could still find that white soft silk scarf today. My very first.

This has buried itself in my mind until I was 15. All the silk scarves my Mum had accumulated over the 80s were left in a box in the spare room. When the house was empty I would steal away into the room, lay out all the 10 or so silk scarves, strip naked and just lie in them, allowing them to touch my skin. I wouldn’t masturbate; it was hardly a sexual thing for me then. Yet the sensations were mindblowing. I would just caress my body with them. It’d be cold, fresh yet very stimulating and that old smell returned. I grew up with it and clearly have not abandoned it. Now with more than 300 silk scarves making up my personal collection, nor do I predict it ever doing so.

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Andy “Silken Assassin” Warren has some very interesting perspectives on all sorts of textiles. Including his fascination with – of all things – Kleenex tissues! Go follow him on Twitter and Facebook for more sensual writing and silk fetish pics.

How many fucks do I give?

When you come to me seeking a position as my submissive keep one thing in mind: I don’t give a fuck about your prowess in bed. Why? For one thing, as a Mistress & slave owner I’m not in this just for the orgasms. And for another thing, I already know you’d suck at providing them.

I’m not in this for the orgasms

Orgasms are great. I love orgasms. I like to have lots and lots of orgasms. And I’m very happy to use my submissive male slaves in any number of ways to help me have lots of fantastic orgasms. However no orgasm can compare with the thrill of a POWER RUSH. I love the feeling of getting my way, of being in command, or exerting my will even when it makes you uncomfortable, humiliated, embarrassed etc. and that’s the thrill I’m after.

For me, an integral part of this power rush is getting paid for it. You most likely do genuine, real-world work to get that money. And I can use it to improve my life in genuine, real-world ways that last so much longer than the glow of any orgasm. For me, that makes both of our roles in the power exchange much more potent. I love the kinky sexual things we do together but without tributes & gifts it feels to me like you want me to be a ‘bdsm booty call’. And I am absolutely not anyone’s booty call!

Is it possible for me to be satisfied with service that doesn’t involve money? Sure. But you’ll have to put forth a lot of effort in doing genuinely useful work for me. Quite possibly more effort than you put in at your vanilla day job. And in my experience when submissive men talk about “serving” they usually have, for instance, eating my pussy in mind. Now do I look to you like the kind of woman who faces any shortage of offers for pussy eating? Of course not. That’s not service to ME; that’s service to your own dick. And once again not at all what I’m about as a dominant woman.

 

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Besides, I know you’d suck at giving them

This isn’t a specific criticism of you personally. (Unless it applies!) But like most women, turning me on involves more than just flipping a switch. My body is a complicated, high-maintenance piece of machinery that must be handled with an expert touch – and no man will have that expertise on his first visit to my boudoir! Any man (or woman for that matter) would take training to be an exceptional lover to me. This is true no matter how much any of your past paramours may have raved about you. Indeed, in my experience some of the absolute worst lovers are the ones who think they’re experts. They have the hardest time opening their ears and minds to what I tell them about how to please me!

Even if you’re not naturally clumsy & stupid in the sack (and a woeful number of men are) you still need training to make my motor purr. So I am completely uninterested in – and unimpressed by – your claims of sexual prowess.

Yeah this goes for dick pics too – if I want to see your junk I’ll ask for it!

If you ever want to kneel to me, have kinky play time with me, or indeed get my attention at all you must first prove yourself useful. You need to demonstrate that you’ll bring more to my life than the transient thrill of a few orgasms. I won’t settle for anything less.

 

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GO HERE NOW to learn about some of the ways you might be useful to me.

Silk Panty Domination

Ah, silky panties. One of the most commonly fetishized articles of feminine clothing. I’ve spoken here already about the power of silky panties in melting the mind of a submissive male when HE wears them. Today I’d like to talk about the power of silk & satin knickers when I wear them. I love panty domination and it’s a big part of my style as The Silk Domme.

Silk & satin panties look fabulous

One of the things that makes ladies panties so delightful is how they look. They’re the perfect packaging for a curvy backside, especially when when you have a great ass! The shine of satiny fabrics catch the eye and lead it along the curves that lie beneath. And whether they’re briefs, bikinis, or thongs silky panties are usually designed to beautifully frame the buttocks. They look so good that loads of men have a fetish for just seeing a woman’s panties. And I think all heterosexual guys, even the ones without a full-on panty fetish, like seeing them at least a little. So panty domination is something that works to control most men, including “vanilla” ones.

 

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Dominating the senses with panties

Wearing silk panties feels amazing. They make me feel pampered, spoiled & utterly hedonistic. They’re that little secret luxury which I might choose to share with a very special (and very lucky) someone, but which is mainly there for me alone. Silky satin fabrics, so soft & slippery, are delightful to feel on the delicate flesh they cover.

The way they capture & transmit my smell is also intoxicating. Seriously, I smell much better in silk or satin panties than in ordinary cotton. And scent is such a powerful trigger of emotion; it’s like a direct line to the arousal centers of the brain. In my view smell is too often ignored as a vital part of any bdsm scene.

 

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Dominating the mind with panties

Panties are also very versatile to use in bdsm play; ‘panty domination’ can mean a lot of things. I can use my silky panties to tie his hands, or stuff them in his mouth and use tape or a scarf to make a panty-gag. I can use them to tie his hands together – great for impulsive scenes when I’m out & about with a slave! And naturally I can make him wear them too. Which is such a rich source of submissive triggers that it deserves its own post.

I can even just simply drape them over his face during any other kind of play to add another dimension completely to a scene. This is a perfect way to transmit that delicious smell I was talking about. Plus it’s terribly humiliating in an intensely sensual way.

Other things I might do with panties include making him clean them, either by hand washing or even sucking my juices (or my lover’s cum) out of them. If I make him suck them of course they won’t get completely clean. But he’ll be so deeply humiliated it can be worth it just for the fun of it. And if he hand-washes them I get to enjoy the win-win of getting my delicates properly taken care of while keeping him firmly in his place. (Plus very likely aroused to boot.) Saves me effort in both directions! And if he doesn’t do a good job I can always beat him. There’s just so many reasons to love panty domination. *evilgrin*

Come explore panty domination with me!

 

Where the porn gets made

I’ve been absent online for the past week or so because I’ve been super busy working on something big. Really big. Seriously, I cannot emphasize enough how big this is for me. I’ve been hard at work building myself a new femdom porn studio!

My struggle & an executive decision

For the past few years I’ve been really struggling as a content creator. Struggling because I had no space of my own to work in. Every time I wanted to make a femdom porn video I had to wait until the middle of the night, rearrange my entire living room, set up backdrops…basically exhaust myself preparing the space before I’d even put my makeup on. And because that space was shared there was no leaving things set up for a few days. I’d have to break down, repack, and reorganize everything in the morning as soon as I was done filming.

It’s entirely predictable under such circumstances that my output would dwindle. And it has. Which is a situation I’ve been pretty damned unhappy with. Well a couple of weeks ago I got fed up. I made the executive decision to appropriate an entire room in my house to be my office & studio space.

My femdom porn studio space

The room I’m using as my new studio was a small porch once upon a time. It had become a sort of rec room, used a lot by other members of my household. But mainly it’d been collecting unused furniture, craft supplies, and random clutter for years. To reclaim it for my purposes I literally had to reorganize the entire rest of my house. I cleaned out almost every closet, bookshelf & cupboard we have and wound up getting rid of a ton of stuff. It’s funny how heavily all this had been weighing on me. According to the scale I haven’t lost a pound but I feel so much lighter now.

It’s still small, but this room is all mine. Now I can go in at any time of the day or night, shut the door, and do whatever I like: film videos, make audio recordings, take calls, do online domination camshows – all the things I’d been missing. I’m giddy thinking of all the possibilities!

A Silk Domme’s studio

There’s a lot of work still to be done. The space has been neglected for a long time so it needs a thorough deep cleaning. And naturally I’m painting and decorating it to suit my style. In the end I’ll have a dedicated space for filming with no need to break everything down afterward. And I’ll have a nice private office where I can edit my smutty pics & vids without fretting about who might be looking over my shoulder. Not to mention being able to take calls & get on cam during the daylight hours!

As I make progress in building my femdom porn studio I’ll be posting little behind-the-scenes video clips on Facebook. Come follow me and share in my evil glee!   ;D

 

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My feet are so dirty after all this work. Come lick them clean for Me!

 

p.s. Now’s a great time to send a tribute & help make my new space awesome

How I got into silk

BDSM Education Femdom Life My Philosophy Silk Domme  sissy silk bondage silk sensual domination satin my fetish luxury lifestyle fetishes Domme style bondage bdsm   I’ve been in love with silk for as long as I can remember. I can recall being a young girl, going to the shopping mall and thrusting my bare arms into the racks of silk blouses just so I could revel in the delicious feeling. Silk has a very distinctive feel against the skin. It’s warm yet cool, slippery but with just a hint of friction or drag on the skin that makes it cling so seductively. Silk is really the perfect fabric for lingerie. And naturally my budding kinky interests included a fascination with lingerie. Then as a young woman I found a man who loved seeing me in pretty underthings and was happy to buy them for me. I was hooked. Hooked on the feeling of the silky lingerie itself as well as on the feelings of pampering and power of having him gifting the lingerie to me. My silk fetish had truly taken hold.

Silk fetish evolution

My silk fetish continued evolving after that. As a perpetually horny young milf I tried selling my panties for extra spending money. I discovered I had a strong exhibitionistic streak; I loved making videos and taking pictures! It gave me an opportunity to apply my creativity using some of the things I loved, including fashion and costume.

Shortly after I started selling my panties I met my first sissy. Which opened my eyes to a whole world of kinky possibilities in the bdsm scene. I had nothing against the macho black-leather-and-chains aesthetic of ‘traditional’ bdsm fetishwear. It just wasn’t my style. But it wasn’t until I met that first fairyboy that I realized I could use my love for silk so much as a dominatrix. And I guess that’s when I really became The Silk Domme.

 

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The Original Silk Domme

Way back when I realized I wanted to be a dominatrix I set myself to learning core bdsm skills. Even if it’s not entirely my ‘thing’ I thought it would be handy to have, for instance, a basic familiarity with rope bondage. It was during this early learning period that I attended FetishCon for the first time and took Bond Dave’s class in silk scarf & sari bondage.

I like to think I’ve evolved a lot since then. I’ve learned how to integrate my silk fetish into every aspect of my kinky play. I even discovered that I love getting wet in silk, lol! Nowadays I continue adding to my collection of lovely silks, and using them as The Silk Domme to give my submissives a truly unique bdsm experience.

 

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Do you have a fetish for silk? Have you ever thought about trying silk bondage? Tell me all about it!

 

Public Foot Worship

Ordering a slave to worship my feet in a public place can be an exercise in exposure & humiliation. But that’s not what this essay is about. Today I want to talk about some of my favorite ways of sneaking subtle foot worship into ordinary public outings. You love my feet? You think my feet should be worshiped every day? Well here’s a few ideas about how we can make that a reality!

Everyday public foot worship

There are loads of ways to incorporate public foot worship into daily activities. Bending down to ‘help me fix my shoe’ is one of the best. You can help me tie a sneaker, adjust a sandal strap, slip on a pump. Mmm, how exciting would it be watching my pretty plump toes slide inside a sexy pump from so close up that you could smell it? And if we’re in public I probably wouldn’t kick you in the balls immediately afterward, lol!

 

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You might sneak in a kiss when you’re fixing my shoe. But an even better way of getting your face close to my feet is by giving me a foot rub. And there are so many places where that kind of public foot worship is completely unremarkable. At the beach for instance: imagine having one foot wiggling in your lap while the other is held in your hands, stroking and stroking my soft meaty soles. Throw in a worshipful kiss or two and you’ll merely be seen as a besotted lover rather than the foot fetish pervert we both know you are.

You can also take advantage of quick moments of privacy. Say we’re headed up to the next level of that department store or art gallery. You could quickly kneel for a moment of public foot worship when the elevator doors close. Or in a restaurant, we can choose a table in the back where I might slide my feet into your lap, allowing you to stroke and massage them (and them to stroke, trample & tease you) throughout our meal.

 

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Shoe shopping: the ideal cover

Shoe shopping alone offers a huge wealth of public foot worship opportunities. Watching my feet slide in over and over again as you help me try on shoe after shoe. Kneeling before me in worshipful submission to my sexy feet. Helping me choose the most beautiful and flattering styles of footwear. Socks, stockings & pantyhose too; you might help me pick out hosiery designed to melt the mind of other foot fetish guys like you. You can render the most useful service of paying for my selections, and then bask in my happy delight as I enjoy my new shoes.

Shoe shopping might really be the perfect excuse for public foot worship. And it’s such a win-win for you! Because not only do you get to have fun while we’re out shopping, you’re also laying the groundwork for future foot worship opportunities. Buy me the stunning designer shoes I want and I’m a million times more likely to have happy feelings about spending time with you in the future.

Want to take me shoe shopping – or just tell me about your foot fetish fantasies? Visit this page to find out how you can schedule foot worship time with me.

Another View of Hard Limits

You’re probably familiar with the idea of hard limits as those lines you’re not willing to cross, activities you absolutely don’t want to do in a bdsm power exchange. But have you ever thought about hard limits including things you must have in your Mistress/slave relationship?

Hard limits as must-haves

Let’s face it, you wouldn’t be into this kinky stuff if you didn’t have fantasies and desires. And it’s very likely you have one or two fetishes you’d find it extremely tough to live without. It’s absolutely ok to consider those things when you’re looking for your dream Domme. It’s also ok to bring those things up when you’re negotiating a slave contract or slave training program with your Mistress.

Say there’s a certain fetish or type of play that’s deeply necessary to your sexual or emotional satisfaction. It’s not only ok but vital that you find a Domme who is happy to incorporate those things into your Mistress/slave relationship. Some common examples of these might be things like crossdressing or toilet training. If those things are a BIG DEAL for you then would you really ever be happy with a Domme who was turned off by them?

 

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Mistress/slave relationship protocols

There are other, less obvious aspects of a Mistress/slave relationship which can also be very important. Level of contact is a good example; how often do you desire (or expect) to have contact with your Domme? Are you hoping for daily chats, or are play sessions once a month sufficient for you? Different expectations regarding level of contact is a very common source of dissatisfaction and conflict between Dommes & subs.

Likewise you may each desire a different level of protocol. If you’re the type of slave that longs for high protocol you will feel unsatisfied with a low protocol owner. A more egalitarian-minded sub might chafe miserably under high protocol demands. And unless you’ve given it some thought you might not even be aware of which kind of sub you are. It’s ok not to know! But that too should be communicated with your Domme, so she can understand what to expect from you. Which in this case would be your need/desire to experiment with different levels of protocol to figure out what works for you.

 

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Practical needs in D/s

Another great example of ‘hard limit’ must haves in a Mistress/slave relationship is aftercare. And this includes aftercare for both physical and emotional aspects of a bdsm scene. You might need words of reassurance after the heavy humiliation scene you crave just as much as you would need your wounds tended after heavy physical play.

Last but certainly not least there are any number of practical ‘vanilla’ needs which might be a good idea to include in any slave training program or bdsm slave contract. Health needs for instance – are you diabetic? It’s entirely sensible to require that you be allowed to eat properly & regularly, and to make sure you take your insulin. Other material needs should be considered as well. For instance I require that my slaves make a financial contribution to me as part of their servitude. This is one of my personal ‘must-have’ hard limits. But I also require that he budget enough to pay for his own bills, including health insurance, retirement savings etc. Debt and bankruptcy may be fun to fantasize about but what good is a broke(n) tool that I can’t use any more? I prefer to take proper care of my tools so that they’ll be usable for a lifetime!

Are there any things you must have to be satisfied with your Mistress/slave relationship? Let’s talk about them!